Neil Ridulfa is a local Coulsdon lad who works in PR for the Museum of Brands. He loves singing and makes occasional media appearances in obscure publications and international radio shows that I’ve never heard of.
This post was originally posted on Neil’s facebook page but he has given me full permission to republish it here (the unmarked bills are in the post, Neil! 😛 )
Evil was visible in Croydon on Monday night. Smoke and flames rising at Reeves Corner made it so. Shattered glass on pavements made it so. Blackberry messages saying, “Loot! Shoot!” made it so.
In our heads, we know good people outnumber those willing to spread destruction and chaos. So why would kids copy the rotten few? Is it because ‘We the Decent’ are invisible?
– INSIDE OUR BUBBLES
We commute. We work. We go home. We smile at the neighbour. We don’t speak to him though. We curse at school kids through gritted teeth. We don’t help schools out though. We’re ‘down with the kids’ because we have iTunes. We won’t talk to kids about music though. Best we all keep our headphones in, eh?
Each time one of us retreats into our bubble, a child loses a role model. We are all a different illustration of what a good person looks like. I am a good person. My brother is a good person. We are completely different but we are both good people. The ways in which we show we are good are different, but we both do good. There are kids out there who could end up being like me, or being like him. Whoever they end up being like, one hopes they end up being good.
However, this will only happen if my brother and I bust out of our bubbles and show publicly the individual ways we have found of being good.
– DON’T KEEP KINDNESS TO YOURSELF
‘The good outnumber the bad.’ You wouldn’t know it looking at the news. You would know it if you were out there meeting your community. I do it at Purley Breakfast Club and Sing Purley, eating and singing – doing what I love most. Everyone I meet there shows me yet another way of being a good human being. We keep each other sane and happy because we don’t keep our kindness to ourselves. We’re out in public, celebrating community spirit.
The more we are out of our bubbles showing the public – the youth – the infinite ways you can be a good person, the better for us all. Make good deeds as visible as the bad ones.
– MAKING ‘GOOD’ VISIBLE
Not all British homes are safe havens for kids.
If kids are not lucky enough to have a role model at home, they’ll need one on the bus: offer your seat to someone who needs it.
If a kid does not have a role model at home, they’ll need one in the shops: always say please and thank you to the cashier.
If a kid does not have a role model at home, they’ll need one on the road: drive safely, don’t swear at other drivers and respect pedestrians.
Kids will learn. What they learn depends on what they see.
My message to everyone is, Make Good Visible.